Neurodivergence in BDSM Dynamics
September 5 @ 6:00 pm – 9:00 pm
A two-day workshop with Susie Showers
Friday September 5th 6PM-9PM
Saturday September 6th 4PM-6PM
Please note, you must have attended Friday’s class to be eligible to attend Saturday’s class.
Have more fun with accessibility in kink for neurodivergent and neurotypical individuals, couples, and polycules.
Perhaps the play you’re engaging in – or avoiding – is creating discomfort or overwhelm for you or your partners. Or maybe you know exactly what you need to feel comfortable, but play feels rigid or uninspired. Join this two-part play lab with a certified mental health & relationship counsellor to explore the benefits of kink, power play and fetish in your relationships.
You’ll be supported to explore…
- Why kink feels so good, based on how your brain learns and communicates
- Feel the difference between feeling unsafe and feelings of discomfort from avoidance, overstimulation, and dissociation
- Connect your unique access needs to roles and activities in BDSM
- Create scenes and aftercare plans for collaborative connection
In the first part you will explore challenges and support needs. Bring your questions, your struggles, your wins! In the second day you’ll be loosely guided to create a scene honouring the play style for your neurotype to satisfy you and your partners, and find creative ways to meet your accessibility needs. You don’t need to be in an ongoing relational dynamic to attend, all that’s required is curiosity to understand yourself and other people.
Day 1:
- After settling in we name common challenges in kinky play and intimacy for neurodivergent folks.
- This channels into support needs these challenges may be pointing towards.
- We play with the difference between feeling unsafe and feeling uncomfortable in relationship, and bring curiosity to discomfort.
- There will be a bit of homework to take with you so you’re prepared well for the practical part.
Day 2:
- Connect support needs to tools including kinky behaviours and activities
- Plan out a scene including negotiation and aftercare for everyone involved
Note: This is not a 101 intro to BDSM, so prior knowledge of basic kink negotiation, safety and consent are expected before joining.
Tickets are sold per person and are provide access to the event for both Friday and Saturday as this is a two day workshop.
Tickets are available on a sliding scale to promote inclusivity and accessibility. Please choose the ticket price that makes this event accessible to you. All ticket types provide the same access to the event.
This workshop does not require a membership. Doors will open 15 minutes before the start of the class.
Susie Showers is a queer nonbinary AuDHD creative arts therapist and relationship counsellor in Montreal. They support queer and trans individuals and relational dynamics explore challenges and curiosities around gender, sexuality, kink, and polyamoury. They integrate somatic techniques, drama therapy, sex therapy, and DBT using a feminist trauma-informed body-based approach. They have been learning and teaching in kink communities since 2013 in London UK, Melbourne Australia, Toronto, and Montreal. They are a clown, a film maker, and a puppeteer, and a dutiful servant to a small black cat called Freyja.
